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WEEKLY QUOTE: Through pride we are ever deceiving ourselves. But deep down below the surface of the average conscience a still, small voice says to us, Something is out of tune.

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After Anybody, Take the lead

If the world could talk,

Would it mock,

The life inside it?

The complexity,

The abnormality.

Of the human race.

If the skies could cry.

Would they hope to die,

than rather see?

The pain we cause each other,

Just to be,

Just to see

How far we can hurt without killing

If the trees could walk,

Would they stalk

The giant oceans?

Rather commit to suicide,

Then give life to us.

Who abuse it, accuse,

Destroy it

For a mere piece of paper?

If humans could love, without asking for more

Would we live long enough to see?

The world we could be.

Escape this seductive misery.

What does it take

to make,

Humans realize

we have 1 life,


before we die.

So why not try,

To give up the lies,

The greed,

The need,

TO be powerful.

And love, without asking for more…

What does it take, to make the human race realize,

We only have 1 life,

1 chance


To make a change,

to rearrange,

To organize, and bid our time.

1 chance to fix our mistakes…

1 chance to change FATE.

Route 2013

Can you believe it is 2013 already?

When did that happen?
When did we grow up?
What happened to all the times when we were kids and had no care in the world except our toys and friends?
And when we were teenagers, it was all what to wear and boys or girls…lol
Now we all grown up, married and popping kids out.
Okay so its 2013 and over the last few days i have been reflecting over the year 2012. All that happened, the Ups and Downs, all the lessons learned throughout the year. these lessons have made me a better person, some i had to learn the hard way, some i learned from other people’s experiences.
Ultimately, i want to apply all of these lessons to my 2013 and make it a memorable, positively uplifting, awesome year, i hope it helps you too.
I know we all like to complain a lot about what we don’t have, and how our life sucks, but one thing i have realised is, you are always way better than someone somewhere, so stop complaining about what you don’t have and be thankful for what you have. I personally believe the more thankful you are for what you do have, the more you would have.
Words are powerful, they can make us or break us, i’m sure you must have heard people say so many times “i shouldn’t have said that” But you can’t take back spoken words.
So Think carefully before you speak.
Think about how what you are about to say would affect the person you are talking to.
Think about the ripple effects of your words
Think about if you really need to talk at that point or its best you keep quiet
Finally, if you must speak, let your words be edifying and not discouraging
Use your words to help people not hurt them.
there is that saying “if you don’t have anything good to say then say nothing”
This is such a big issue for people, yes i know i know, its hard to forgive and forget.
I have discussed this topic too many times and always wind up in the same place, people always say “i will forgive but i can NEVER forget” I agree it very very difficult to forget when someone wrongs you, especially if there is something that constantly reminds you to bring the pain back.
But recently someone said something that made sense about forgiveness.
When someone offends you, first makeup your mind to forgive the person and then when you do forgive, DO NOT bring it up or make reference to it while discussing with the person. it sounds hard but i think it helps and with time you would be able to let go and the pain slowly fades away
We are all humans we make mistakes, most times because we are being stupid or stubborn or just being proud, some mistakes are more explosive and damaging than others, some can be fixed immediately and some stay with us for the rest of our lives, those ones are like breaking a broom stick, you can’t put it back together again, you could try tape it, glue it or staple it but it cannot be the same way it was.
The most important thing is learning from those mistakes  and growing from them, don’t dwell on your past cos you don’t live there anymore and you certainly can’t change it. if you focus on your past mistakes you keep making them over and over again.
You know how you say when one door closes another opens? well sometimes we stand there staring at the closed door and don’t notice the new door open to us.
As we learn from our past mistakes, we should also not dwell on our past success, Yes you did great now move to the next great thing.
Very important, We as humans, we know we are not perfect, but what bothers me is when we seek constant approval, praise or appreciation from others, i’m not saying thats bad because one way or the other we all like attention. When we forget who we are and start to live out our lives for someone else to be happy or satisfied thereby hurting ourselves then there’s a problem.
Learn to appreciate and love yourself for who you are and that would shine through to others and they would appreciate you.
My very good friend told me a while back that no one is responsible for your happiness except you.
No one is allowed or permitted to make you feel sad or worthless without your consent.
you control you own life.
Never allow what people say determine how you live your life or your future, because most times these people don’t even remember the next day what they said about you and if you hold on to it, you would make yourself sad and miserable.
I Hope you all learn something from these lessons, I have and i’m going to apply them in my 2013.


Dare to Be

“Dare to Be

When a new day begins, dare to smile gratefully.

When there is darkness, dare to be the first to shine a light.

When there is injustice, dare to be the first to condemn it.

When something seems difficult, dare to do it anyway.

When life seems to beat you down, dare to fight back.

When there seems to be no hope, dare to find some.

When you’re feeling tired, dare to keep going.

When times are tough, dare to be tougher.

When love hurts you, dare to love again.

When someone is hurting, dare to help them heal.

When another is lost, dare to help them find the way.

When a friend falls, dare to be the first to extend a hand.

When you cross paths with another, dare to make them smile.

When you feel great, dare to help someone else feel great too.

When the day has ended, dare to feel as you’ve done your best.

Dare to be the best you can –

At all times, Dare to be!”
― Steve Maraboli, Life, the Truth, and Being Free


She flipped the switch on in the bathroom
A bright light came on
She rushed to the mirror to look at her face
she smiled, it was still perfect looking
Even after all the dancing and sweat.
She took a few minutes to appreciate how flawless her skin looked
Her perfectly arched brows, her carefully shaded and highlighted cheek bones
Flush of pink blusher that warmed her face up
Beautiful colours that brightened up her eyes

and those perfectly shaped lips

She giggled
saying to herself “you can’t go wrong with Ruby woo”
Thank you Mac for covering those scars
Thank you NYX for hiding the dark circles under my eyes
she kept staring at herself
then the voices started
you’ll look better with smaller lips
your forehead is too big
your nose is too wide
your eyes are to wide apart
Did you see tope at the party today?
why can’t you be more like her?
She played back the scene
Everyone was talking about how how tight Tope’s abs are.
Yep! she muttered Tope is perfect
she closed her eyes for a second and flipped it open
but the voice only got louder
they were screaming at her
you are too fat
your thighs are too thick
you butt is too small
your boobs are too small
you are not perfect.
she put her hands on her head
shut her eyes really really tight
and screamed “SHUT UP”
they were gone
all the voices
Took another look in the mirror
she started laughing
I know i’m not perfect
No one is
I fail I fall I falter
I make mistakes
I have FLAWS but they are AWESOME
God took his time to make me the way I am
So I am unique.
No one is like me.
I am one of a Kind
she took out her blot powder
touched up her face
took one last look
a smile and a wink.
and went back to the party


Pacing up and down in the living room

I said to myself

Today is the day,

I am going to do it

I am going to find my voice
I will tell you exactly  how i feel
I have been waiting for so long
picked up my glass of chardonnay
took a big gulp
looked over at the bottle,
it was almost empty
i kept drinking
As thought about it carefully
Over and over again in my head
I heard the door open
My hearts skipped a beat
My mouth suddenly turned dry
My palm sweating
it was time
I Open my mouth to speak and it all came gushing
like water through a broken cistern
How could you do these to me? i screamed
I gave you  everything
my whole world, My life, My love, My heart
And you act like it means nothing to you.
Who was there when u were nothing?
Who was there when you were down?
Who was there when u needed someone to believe in you?
i asked between gritted teeth
Now u have it all
everything u ever dreamed of and it becomes so easy to forget
We don’t mean nothing to you anymore?
i was shaking, screaming at the top voice
i could feel my lungs aching
NO NO NO!!!!
You can’t throw all we toiled to build away
you just can’t
I won’t let you.
I’m talking to you
Look at me
please answer, say something,
ANSWER ME damn it!!!!!!
Silence was all i could hear and the sound of my heart racing
I was so mad, pretending you can’t hear me?
My blood was boiling
I couldn’t take it anymore
There was nothing i could do
So, i THREW A PUNCH real hard
Instantly, i felt a sense of release,
It was replaced by a sharp pain
Then the smell of fresh blood filled my nostrils
And there came the voice of my frightened 2year old baby girl “MAMAAAAA” she cried out
I looked at my fist, still moulded from throwing that punch
dripping with blood
I looked up slowly to the hundred images of myself in the shattered mirror in front of me.


Here is a piece by my good friend… she has a way with words. check out some more pieces on her blog


I tried to look without blinking,

I stared uninterruptedly for a long time

It got blurry for a while and it I almost couldn’t visualize for a splitsecond until I blinked and there it was staring right back at me

So I started  drinking,
Wine, Whiskey and a lil’ liquor,
And with every sip and every glass I still felt my heart sinking from the weight of my troubled thoughts..

Day in, day out I was always caught by myself thinking,
Pondering and wishing everything away..

It was  persistently adamant,
With it there was no going away, no shaking it off, no shrinking, no flinching..

Its sound piercing like tyres screeching,
Its sight gory like stealing in a lagos hood when its punishment inevitably would be lynching
It reminded me of an evangelist preaching,
Its effect was adverse  cause classes I never attended about it whenever  they were teaching..

I got my self into this mess so I guess its time to stop bitching
Brace myself up for some ditching and dissing
I had it, I messed up and now its missing
In its place this monster I have created, I nursed it, I raised it
Now I gotta accept it, live with it and deal with it
Its not just a part of me, its now whom I have become..
It taunts me, it haunts me and constantly reminds me that;
I am a bad habit, I am an addict, I am eccentric, I am a misfit, and I am not going anywhere cause I am unique and I am you..


Flavour Oyi cover

my lovely friend precious Mba. she has the most amazing voice.

The Hype

We meet, Hit it off instantly, spend hours talking and laughing, getting to know basic things about each other.

then we run out of time. AWWWWWW!!! how sad, wish we could have spent more time talking.
we exchange numbers, we get to our different destinations and immediately my phone beeps… i look at it and i smile, the message reads “hey it was nice talking to u today” and i say “same hey, u r funny, my cheeks still hurts from laughing”
and so it goes on, text to text and call to call we build this amazing connection.
Everything seems perfect, we have everything in common, we spend everytime we can together, spend hours chatting, sometimes, its like we can read each other’s minds. we finish each other’s sentences. it’s perfect, A match made in heaven…

A new appreciation

How do u feel when u find a new appreciation for something old? Recently i understood what really means. Got these in 2007, i have been wearing them for years. Got bored at work one day and i was surprised with what i came up with when i decided to play with the dresses (random, i know)lol…
Came out with ds beautiful piece. Don’t even know how the “hoody” idea came up. everyone loves the dress now, some of ma friends want it even. comments rolling in and a new appreciation was formed.  
 This the original dress
My new Favourite dresses got me thinking about life and people, you have friends that have been in ur life for yrs but u never really notice them, then they come along and do something outstanding, unexpected and u see them in a brand new light and a new appreciation is formed.
the original dress
And lets not forget the classic “Boy and Girl tale” friends from childhood “just Friends” and something so little but amazing like a gift or a smile or a touch makes them develop feelings for each other that leads them  to a romantic relationship, they find out they r soul mates when a new appreciation is formed.
so open ur eyes, u just mite see someone or something in a new light and form a new appreciation.

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WEEKLY QUOTE: Through pride we are ever deceiving ourselves. But deep down below the surface of the average conscience a still, small voice says to us, Something is out of tune.


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